So the LJ Idol topic of the week is sexual Ethics, and if you know me, you know I am squirming in my seat and my face is more red than my foot which says something. That said, it's a great timing situation, since we discussed sexual harassment last week and the social work code of ethics this week in some of my social work classes. So I've decided I'm going to share my own personal sexual code of ethics. It's based on my own values and has nothing directly to do with anyone else's.
Respect is vital in the arena of sexuality, respect for yourself, respect for others and respect for God (if that fits your personal beliefs). This means to respect your needs and desires, as well as those of others. In other words, no one should make you feel bad for saying "no, stop that!", and you should respect the rights of others to do the same.
I have the right to understand my own body. In biology of women, I learned so much about my own body and also the body of the male biological sex. I joke that the threat of being kicked in the ovaries is not nearly so scary now that I know where they are, but it's actually sort of true. And I've grown somewhat more comfortable with my needs as a female. I'm aware of birth control options and their pros and cons. I'm aware of ways to manage my menses. And I'm not afraid to ask for help or clarification if I need it. I even know that certain things shouldn't hurt. That['s quite empowering, if you think about it.
I've touched on this before, but choice is a vital part of sexual ethics. This is the ability to choose what is right for me. If I don't want to have children, I don't have to. And if I ever decide I wanted children, I should have that choice.
Finally, there's the ethic of change, the right and responsibility to change if something doesn't fit with my current knowledge.